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[winterbadger]

In another conversation, someone said:

...what chance does partner A have of finding someone suitably compatible while partner B remains on the radar as this tremendously good friend with whom they share everything but sex?

... If you're interested in having a partner rather than just a good friend you're going to lose part of the commitment to the friend when you start looking elsewhere for a partner.

As anyone who knows me will understand, I have a vested interest in believing this not to be true. But it's a coherent expression of a response I've had from a number of people I've been interested in dating.

Comments?

[And, Max, if you object for some reason to my quoting your post, let me know. I figured it was more appropriate to do so without direct attribution and without linking to the original discussion because I wanted to discuss my reactions but I didn't want to hijack the thread the discussion originally took place in.]

Comments

[kmusser]

1) Sure it'll be a little more difficult, but certainly not impossible. Among poly-friendly folks partner B would probably be seen as a positive. Think of it as pre-screening partners that are going to have jealousy issues.

2) is entirely up to you. If you're determined to keep that commitment, than keep it - nothing's going to stop you.