mildly grumpy

[winterbadger]

Ill tempered grumbling. So, besides the notice I placed here (which I regard in the general nature of sticking up a sign on a noticeboard--people can respond or not as they choose), I sent an email to about two dozen people letting them know about the Games Day this Saturday. Not two dozen random people, or distant acquaintances; two dozen people I count, to one degree or another, as friends. And at the end of the email, I indicated I'd like to hear back from them, whether they would be able to make it or not. (Mostly because, as I'd indicated in the email, I provide a meal for folks, and I want to know how much food and drink to get).

So far I've heard back from four people (only one of whom is able to make it, but that's a different issue). The other twenty haven't bothered to reply.

This isn't the first time this has happened, but it still annoys me. To me, it seems really rude, if a friend invites you to an activity they're planning, to simply ignore their invitation, especially if they ask for a reply one way or the other. This is apparently a minority viewpoint, even among people I count(ed) as friends. How much effort does it take to email someone and say "Hey, thanks, but I'm doing something else"? or "Thanks for your invite. I'm not sure if I'm going to be free; can I let you know closer to the date?" or "Thanks, I'd love to come?"

I'm still going to do this, because some people have indicated they'd like to come, but this has really soured me about some of these folks.

Comments

[peaceful-fox.livejournal.com]

I didn't respond because I knew you knew that I would be in the UK, however, it's a huge peeve of mine when I don't get a response either. I really believe that people don't know the meaning of RSVP and think that's it's okay to not respond if they aren't coming. This has caused me grief in the past becuase I had to hunt people down to get answers - it was always mixed:
1. I didn't RSVP because I thought you knew I was going to come.
2. I didn't RSVP because I thought you knew I wasn't going to come.

ARGH.