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[winterbadger]

I really never will be able to get over how incredibly RUDE it seems to me for people to simply IGNORE invitations.

Yes, people are often busy with work or family issues, or sick, and I'm sure that they have many more important things to do than talk to me. That doesn't bother me.

Yes, people who really don't know me well may feel that responding to someone they're not familiar with isn't a big priority. I can understand that.

But when people I know well enough to invite to my home don't feel the need to even *reply* to an invitation...

Well, it sends me a strong message that I don't matter much to them. Which gives me a clear indication that I needn't bother issuing them any more invitations.

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[peaceful-fox.livejournal.com]

I recently had someone - a month after a birthday party I invited them to had happened - write to me and say, "I know you invited me to something a while ago. Whatever it was, I hope it was fun!".

*cringe*

Honestly, what IS it with people?

[winterbadger]

I really don't know. I don't think I'm a model of gentility, and I'm sure there are lots of things my granny would think need to be tightened up about my manners, but it just seems simple good manners to respond to invitations.

[redactrice.livejournal.com]

Now I'm feeling guilty about not replying yet to your question about going to some of the concerts at the Botanic Garden. But those aren't at your house . . . (excuse, excuse)

People do seem to be so wrapped up in their own worlds these days. I wonder if they only answer text messages sent five minutes before an event.

[winterbadger]

Oh, I didn't mean like that at all. I meant actual real invitations (like Evite or hardcopy paper invitations) to specific events, not suggestions for socializing. Besides, Mel already kinda replied about that. :-) For that thing I did a few weeks ago, I invited 20 people; not counting those whose partners replied for them, 12 people just ignored it. Didn't say "I can't come" or "I'm not sure"--just ignored the invitation entirely. With one or two exceptions, I'm never going to invite any of those people to anything again.

I just asked some of my gaming friends recently if they wanted to take over a spot in an ongoing game I'm moderating. When I hadn't heard anything from any of them in several days, I asked again and two of them replied, "Oh, I wasn't interested, so I didn't reply." (The others didn't even reply to the second question.)

Some people just have their heads up their arses. The hell with them.