a date!

[winterbadger]

So, I chatted with the lady in question and arranged a date for Tuesday evening. No idea how this will go, especially as I feel terribly clumsy and awkward about what sorts of things to say and when, but she sounded glad I called and happy to make a date, so still positive overall.

I think one of the things that I do worst at in dating is chat. I'm not good at compliments--I get the impression I make too many of them. And I think maybe I sound too eager and hopeful. *sigh* This is all so difficult.

Another thing I suck at is compartmentalizing. I feel as if I should be able to take all the "I met this person and she's really cool and she seems to like me" stuff and store it in a drawer and go do other things. But instead I keep thinking about the person, recalling conversation to glean facts, wondering about her and what she's like, and so on. *more sigh*

In other news, C&M and I went out to the bookstore (for cards) and the hardware store (for a new snow shovel and birdseed). The birds are very happy about the birdseed! The juncos, doves, cardinals, a chickadee or two, and and a nuthatch have been bustling around eating away. Forty pounds of seed should last for a while! :-) It was funny: all the seed is kept on shelves in the outside yard of the store, and when I went back there to look, a huge flock of all sorts of birds rose out of the shelves and flew off.

OK, off for tea and a little telly before doing some chores.

Comments

[ingenious76.livejournal.com]

Stop thinking. Go and have fun on the date.

(And yes, I know I'm a hypocrite.)

[wolfette]

remember that this person is a person. talk to her as a person, not a "date". if you can't speak to her like a friend, the date will be awkward and go nowhere.


in other words, just have a nice time with a friend, who happens to be female, and everything else will flow. compliments not always necessary - in fact unless merited, they should be avoided (past the "you look nice - like your dress/shoes/necklace" on first arrival.

[zoefruitcake.livejournal.com]

well done, good luck for Tuesday!

[noting-nothing.livejournal.com]

Oooh! Have fun!

As for compartmentalising (or lack of), in my opinion, that's quite normal when you meet someone new. Or at least it is for me. It's all exciting and stuff, and hard to shift 'em from your mind.

[dativesingular.livejournal.com]

I think people who aren't nervous before dates are the same kind of people who do BASE jumping . . .no fear gene. :)

Anyway, I'd say go out with her as you would any female friend and see how it develops. Yeah, I know, easier said than done. Good luck all the same, though!

[rolypolypony.livejournal.com]

Awesome!! Good luck! Don't be nervous!

Yay birds!

[snow-lion.livejournal.com]

You'll be great. You'll have a good time, and she'll be glad she went out with you.

[winterbadger]

You, m'dear, are quite the ego-booster. :-)

[winterbadger]

Thanks! Yes, more bird pictures coming soon.

[winterbadger]

Thanks; I'll let all know how it goes. :-)

[winterbadger]

Ha! Well I'm glad it's not just me. My ex (with whom I otherwise get on very well) tends to sigh dramatically and roll her eyes when I start getting goofy about someone, and invariably tells me I'm getting much too worked up too fast about them.

[winterbadger]

Thanks!

[winterbadger]

That's OK--aren't well much braver for other people than for ourselves? :-)

[winterbadger]

Thanks! That's good advice; I don't want to appear insincere, or as if I'm just BSing to get brownie points. *I* always think the compliments I give are merited, but I think in this case it's less important what I think that how the recipient may feel about them.

[azbound.livejournal.com]

You're a great dater! I should know - I dated you! You are a great conversationalist and have good taste and have other skills I won't mention. You're a *great* dater.

And totally unrelated, I was watching stored up "Bones" this weekend and Stephen Fry is doing a guest bit (as Booth's psychiatrist) and while watching him, I realized how much he reminded me of you. In a very GOOD way.

[winterbadger]

Thank you! What a wonderful series of compliments! I especially like the idea of SF reminding you of me--that really tickles my fancy. :-)